What do you do?

What do you do if you rushed out of class for a toilet break and during your return you are stopped by a guy who starts making friendly conversations with you?

Do you automatically assume that he is interested in you?

Or would you brush that thought aside and just assume that he is trying to make friends?

What if you have already told him that you need to go back to class fast, but he still delays you because he has some unfinished business?

What if he doesn’t actually tell you what business he has yet to complete but automatically you know that he really just wants to get your number?

What if YOU ALREADY HAVE A BOYFRIEND AND YOU KNOW THAT THIS GUY’S INTENTION IS NOT JUST A SIMPLE FRIENDLY ONE?

What do you do?

And oh, what if after you manage to convince him that you have a class to return to, he says to you that He Will Be Waiting Outside For You???????????????????????????

How do you react to something like that?

And I am not trying to boast but that happened to me the other day in the library.

True enough, when I filed out of class after that, he was waiting for me!

I pretended to be in a very busy conversation with Ee Vonne and at the same time, pressing my phone too, but he was relentless!

He followed both of us across the library, to the lift, INSIDE the lift, down to the entrance and even followed us all the way to KPS which was across the street from the library!!!

He kept asking me for my number, claiming that he was interested in me, and I kept saying that I don’t give my number to people I don’t know.

I mean, you would say that I could have just mentioned that I already have a boyfriend. But how presumptuous would I sound if I said something like that to his face?

I gave him the BOD because what if he only wanted to be friends? What if he just wanted me to help him get a letter from the UM administration because he couldn’t speak BM? What if? What if? What if?

So I couldn’t say that. I just said that I only give my number to my close friends. And he asked if he could be one of my close friends wtf.

I told him not now obviously and just to get him to leave me I said I would give him my email address and he can add my on Facebook.

So I gave him my email (fake one of course) and he said thanks and went over to Ee Vonne and apologised to her for monopolising my time.

Then I felt a little bit guilty because he was being really polite to apologise to Ee Vonne but I kept fearing that if I became to friendly he might get the wrong message!!!

I forced myself to be cool and after that he left. I texted my boyfriend to tell him about this and he told, no DEMANDED that I just ignore him because he said he is a guy and he knows what a guy wants.

I felt super relieved after that and had my lunch happily with Ee Vonne.

But when we headed to the bus stop to wait for Bus E, that guy suddenly appeared again!

He sat directly opposite me and Ee Vonne, so obviously he was trying to make conversations with us again.

This time, I decided I had to completely ignore him because I didn’t want to give him any false hopes! I mean, I couldn’t be entirely sure that his intention was to, you know, get to know me as more than friends, but I had to do what it takes to make him understand that I am not interested right?

So I whipped out my phone and called my boyfriend. I left the guy to talk to Ee Vonne entirely. Yes she was peeved but I had  to do it!!! lol

Luckily Ee Vonne was smart enough and told the guy straight that I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone.

And then he exclaimed, Oh! She had a boyfriend already? Then I shouldn’t…

Then he left.

And it proves that my assumption wasn’t wrong but still, I felt bad because why can’t a guy and a girl just be normal friends? Does it mean that once there will be no romantic involvement between them that they cannot be platonic friends?

But my main question is this: if this were to happen to you, how would you have reacted?

Do you think I was mean to have behaved like that?

#1 You might think that I kept using ‘that guy’ because I don’t want to reveal the identity of the guy, but the truth is, I didn’t catch his name when he mentioned it to me, or if he did, I forgot what it was. lol I was really freaked out lah!

#2 Stupid Ee Vonne told me not to be so proud of myself that a guy is interested in me because it is not because I am very pretty, but because I have a huge ass which appeals to men (because I am hou sang yong = meaning that I can give birth to many healthy babies). ==

Today I decide to be a better person.

As a student in UM, I suddenly met a lot of new people. It is like a whole new world. SO many people around me with different personalities, thoughts and mind set. And the one reaction I realise I have to this sudden invasion of people into my life is: I start to complain a lot.

When I see things that I find unpleasant, as if having a mind on its own, my mouth would start babbling complaints to my partner-in-crime, Ee Vonne.

It’s like everyday I see someone who makes me feel annoyed or irritated. I can easily list out 5 most annoying types of people I have met in my life in UM so far:

1. Group members who will not cooperate.
2. Girls who act cute and are only friendly to guys (hate them so much GRR).
3. Friends who endlessly ask for your help, ignoring the fact that YOU, yourself might also have assignments to complete.
4. People who are not seng mok, ie, I was standing by the door, holding it open for the next passing person to take on the responsibility so that I can leave that spot by the door (this huge crowd of people were streaming out the hall together), and it so happened that the next person was guy. Instead of holding it open, you know, relaying the responsibility (it’s common courtesy right!?), he just walked right on as if it was my ultimate chore to freaking hold the door open for him. URGH.
5. People who ONLY acknowledge the presence of your friend even though you are standing right next to her and acts as if you are invisible.

 

You see, I have so many complaints. Yes, they are valid complaints, but I realised that these are things we cannot change in life.

There WILL be people like this, no matter where we go, what we do, or even during which part of our lives. Maybe when we were younger we didn’t notice these things about others, but we are adults now.

We tend to take more notice of the people around us, and really, there is nothing we can do about it.

I guess the only change we can make is by changing ourselves.

To reduce the number of people who are annoying, we must first make sure we remove ourselves from that category. And for that I have come up with 5 most commonly annoying types of people and ways to prevent being like that (represented after the – sign):

1. People who boast to feel better about themselves. – Keep our achievements to ourselves. If we are good, it shows, there is no need to inform.
2. People who keep asking you to help him do something when you yourself can barely finish your own assignments. And the worst type are those who CAN do their work on their own, but are too lazy and so they resort to you. – Always, always start your assignment about 5-7 days before the actual due date. It doesn’t matter if you don’t finish, as long as you start. Don’t bother others with your problems, because there is always another solution: Google & Wikipedia.
3. People who complain about every single thing (me). – Stop freaking complaining. When you have the urge to complain just think of fluffy pink bunnies or LV handbags (for girls) and RDJ’s abs and the new Lambo Aventador (for guys, well, I guess for girls too, considering it’s RDJ’s ABS).
4. People who only acknowledge the presence of your friend and completely ignores you, even though you’re just standing right beside said friend. – I know sometimes it’s hard to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, but just make the effort to say Hi, and introduce yourself. When you get to used to it, you will realise it’s nothing. It even makes you feel better because you’re actually being nice.
5. People who arrive late to the bus stop (and therefore should only get into the bus LAST!!!) but unabashedly rush to the bus anyway, ignoring the fact that some other people (me) may have arrived early to secure a good spot. – Just be FAIR. I know it’s impossible to account exactly who arrived the earliest or the second earliest or so on, but if you know you have arrived late, then stand at the back. You might be giving a chance to those who arrived later than you to get into the bus first, but at least you are being fair to those who arrived earlier than you. And that is good enough. Don’t rush to the bus like a sore loser, it’s disgusting. The bus will still be there, so scared for what jek?

 

So while I am helping to make the world a better place, I am also trying to change myself.

Since I can comfortably say that I am not one of the 5 top annoying types of people, now I can move on to the next step of this strategy: which is to just IGNORE these people if I ever encounter one.

Like I said, counter your urge to complain with a thought about something else.

It really makes you feel much better. I gave an impromptu speech persuading people to not take life so seriously the other day in class, so I am going to heed my own words.

From now on, I decide to change.

I will stop complaining and stop taking life too seriously.

And I shall start the change by posting a stupid photo of me. lol

BYE!

Do you have any more annoying types of people you would like to share?