I must be psychic.

2 years ago when I was still dumb and innocent, I wrote a very cringe-worthy post on the type of boyfriend that I would consider perfect.

http://joeyjoeldavid.blogspot.com/2009/03/perfect-boyfriend-d.html

Reading back, I felt abit revolted by my childishness but I forgive myself because I was only 17 back then and haven’t even graduated high school.

But scrolling through the post I found something really odd. And it is that, as naive as I was back then, those traits I wanted in a boyfriend back then, pretty much are still the same as those that I want today!

And even more magical is the fact that my boyfriend Salam seems to pass each point with flying colours!

BABY!!!

Let’s take a brief recap and analysis! (bolded font is extract from the old blog post)

FAMILY-ORIENTED

I've never thought about this before but then I realise I really want a guy who cares for his family. One who does go out with his parents for shopping or anniversary dinners and all without rolling his eyes in disgust and then proceeds to stuffing his PSP into his pocket and then leaves the house grunting the whole journey. To me, if a guy knows how to treat his family well, and even enjoys their company, then you know he is BOUND to be one guy who will treat YOU right.

If there is one guy you want me to name who should win the gold medal for being the most family-oriented, it is Salam. I am serious.

He comes from a very good family, where all his siblings are very close to each other and also to their parents. They would always go for dinner together when they have the chance, they would go out as a family whenever they can (just recently the whole family went to see fireflies together at Kuala Selangor! So cute!) and they joke together and have chit-chats that last throughout the night.

I’ve never known a guy of his tender years (20 years old) to be so family-oriented before. All guys I know these days are mostly walking buds of testosterone and victims of peer pressure because all they care about are girls and what makes you cool or not cool.

But Salam is not like that. He doesn’t really succumb to peer pressure (if I say he is 100% not intimidated by peer pressure I would be lying, but mostly he isn’t) and he knows what is right, what should be done and he doesn’t do stuff just to appear cool like most boys these days do. Urgh.

And so, point one, check!

DOESN'T SHOUT OR TALK LOUDLY

(unless of course it's something he's really excited about and he's got no control over how loud he may sound, that's excusable)

I really despise people, especially guys who talk VERY LOUDLY or shout when they're trying to make a statement or when they're angry. That, I really cannot tolerate. For example, let's say this guy mentions something about the weather and then his girlfriend couldn't catch what he said and she goes, What? and then he shouts back, THE WEATHER!!! I really cannot tolerate someone who speaks loudly, instead of taking the mature path of explaining things in a diplomatic and peaceful manner.

And what's worse than that? A guy who goes, WHY NOT? when you tell them not to be loud. God, I just hate guys like that. So, long story short: I hate guys who raise their voices at their girlfriends. Period.

Aha! Another spot on characteristic that Salam has!

I have NEVER in my capacity as his friend or girlfriend ever heard him raise his voice. Not at other people, not at me.

It is not that he is not manly enough, believe me, when he gets angry, it intimidates me even, haha, but he is just not used to shouting or raising his voice at people.

That’s one of the things I like most about him. He is very respectful towards other people and he doesn’t jump to conclusion nor does he resort to violence to solve a problem. He is very patient and understanding.

So, point two, check!

HAS MONEY

Sorry but this is the painful truth. I love money. Money makes everyone happy. Don't you deny. And so of course I like guys who have money. Even if the money's from his mum or dad, as long as he saves some and isn't completely broke when he needs to spend money, I'm fine with it. Okay so this doesn't mean I hate poor people la. I just hate people who don't make the effort to generate money or when they do generate money, they don't make it a point to save them. All they do is just spend spend spend spend. Yuck.

This doesn’t imply that Salam is very rich. I don’t know if he is rich or not (maybe his mum and dad got mounts and mounts of cash hidden I don’t know about), but from what I know, he’s family is doing quite well.

And Salam isn’t the type of guy who only knows how to spend money without leaving any to be saved. He does spend money on things that he likes, but he knows just how much to spend and how much to save. I like that about him because it proves that he is very responsible.

So point three, check!

BUYS/MAKES/GIVES ME RANDOM THINGS

Yes this is vitally important too. Because nothing is more genuine in love than a partner who wants to make you happy 24/7. I'm serious. This is not about money and I am not a materialistic girl thank you very much (or maybe I am :P). If you couldn't bother to think up something that makes me happy, I am not going to want to date you. Sorry.

Proof of point 1 : He recently gave me a GIGANTIC BEAR when I complained that I have nothing in my house that I could hug to sleep whenever he isn’t around.

It is THAT big. :3

Proof of point 2 : He recently also made many many colourful paper hearts for me just because I said I loved paper hearts and would love to have a variety of them in all sorts of colours!

SHO PRETTY! ><

Proof of point 3 : He recently also gave me an anklet when I randomly mentioned to him that mine had broken! (how did he remember??!)

Proof of point 4 : He sends me pictures of red roses in Facebook EVERY SINGLE DAY WITHOUT FAIL just because I love red roses!

Proof of point 5 : He always gives me bouquets of red roses just because I ask for them!

The first bouquet of roses he ever gave me. :3

Proof of point 6 : On our first ever date, apart from giving me a bouquet of red roses, he also gave me a really cute rose-shaped multi-coloured LED thing which flashes all sorts of colours when turned on! This is one thing that I REALLY REALLY LOVE! ><

Proof of point 7 : I could go on and on and on but I am scared that I would bore you to death so let’s just stop here ok!

Point four, check!

TAKES EDUCATION SERIOUSLY

Seriously man, this should be on the TOP of the list. I really really really cannot tolerate people who do not take education seriously. People who always flunk their papers simply because they are too LAZY to study. I hate people like this I am sorry. I want someone who's intelligent and more importantly, who WANTS to be intelligent. A combination of both is of course the best la. :P :P :P Yes I admit that I only want to be smart so that I can showcase my pride and show off to people that I CAN DO IT. What is wrong with that? With my pride and dignity I am definitely going to be privileged with more opportunities and chances and that is the ONLY way people in the world are going to take me seriously. So that is what I am striving for. Besides, aren't I at least better than those who just sit by the corner complaining about life and not doing anything to make a difference? Pathetic.

He is a JPA scholar after scoring 9As for his SPM and is currently studying aerospace engineering in UIA. He takes his education seriously! Even more so than I do lol

But I’m happy!

Point five, checkity check check!

DOES NOT PARTY

Enough said. Well actually not, cos then you will think that I don't like guys who celebrate their own birthdays. So okay, what I mean by PARTY is, going out till the wee hours of the night, going clubbing or to cybernets, guys who think only of dancing and having fun and that's about all that revolves in their lives. I cannot tolerate people who have no goals in their lives. Serious. I like a guy who goes home at reasonable hours and even if he does stay up late, he's doing it at HOME or at a friend's place and not out and about partying and/or racing cars illegally. I want a nice, clean guy (who listens to his parents. What? Parents give the best advices okay. No I am not being sarcastic. Seriously, they do - I AM NOT BEING SARCASTIC!!!), but of course not those boring types okay.

He doesn’t smoke, drink or do drugs, obviously. Nor merempit OBVIOUSLY. He sleeps at decent hours most of the time (MOST of the time hahahaha) and even when he stays up late he is at home. And he really listens to his parents and that is important because that shows he knows how to respect them.

And he is by far NOT boring because he does the most romantic things for me, bring me to the best places, talks about the funniest things and just, ah, I just can’t ask for more! :3

He took me to the beach on our first date because I’ve been complaining since forever about wanting to go to a beach!!!

Point six, check!

HOT

Okay so that is not entirely true because I don't really mind looks but of course if you are hideously deformed and I cannot tolerate staring at your face for more than 3 seconds, then I won't choose you la. Save pain ma. :P But honestly, I don't mind if the guy's no Johnny Depp or David Desrosiers (though of course if he is, it's a BONUS! :D) as long as he Makes An Effort to look nice. That's all I want. Just try to look nice. No, no, want to try to look nice. It has to come from inside and not because I say so. But of course I also want a guy who's taller than I am, and at least doesn't look like an ant when standing next to me. I want a guy who appears to be able to protect me. (heck not only appear but actually ABLE to protect me)

I guess these photos are enough to illustrate the fact that he really cares about his looks and is superbly cute!

But he isn’t taller than me though, we’re about the same height. But he doesn’t look like an ant beside me LOL so it’s all ok!

But I am trying to get him to eat more so that he can gain more weight and make me look thinner lol but his metabolism rate is too high! He eats like a horse but doesn’t gain weight at all. ==

And he is capable of protecting me too! I can tell you all at length about how protective he is but let’s skip that part first because it will be coming up in the next point!

So for now, point seven, check!

PROTECTIVE

Yessssssssssssssssssssssssssss. This is the most awesome part man. I want a protective man. THAT IS ALL I WANT. (plus all those other stuff I mentioned above :P) I want a guy who shouts at dogs that bark at me (since he isn't raising his voice at me, it's fine), a guy who grabs my hand tightly when crossing roads, a guy who doesn't allow me to sit near fountains in case I fall off, a guy who holds my handbag for me (not to mention ignoring the stigma of holding a WOMAN's handbag! SUPER ROMANTIC :D :D :D) because he doesn't want my hand to feel too tired of holding it, gets all worried when I don't text back (and not annoyed) and and and, well you get the point la. I don't care if he's over-protective over stupid and weird stuff I LIKE IT. :D :D :D But of course his intentions have to be because he cares very deeply for me and not because he wants to appear manly and the dominant one in the relationship.

Hehe. He is very protective. One point, he has since forbidden me to go out to mamaks at night after the incident where Cherrie got her handbag snatched near Berkeley Corner the other day.

He does hold my hand really tightly when crossing roads, he would hold my stuff for me when they are really heavy, or should I say, he doesn’t allow me to hold anything besides my handbag when we are out together == , and he is always telling me to take care and telling me how worried and bad he feels for not being able to be there with me all the time to protect me. :3

Hihi where to find a sweeter boyfriend? The answer : NEVERLAND. Muahahahahhaha!!!

And so point eight, check!

LISTENS TO ME

Listening is very important to me. When someone listens to you, it means that he/she cares for you. And that is very important. Even if you're rambling about what stupid incident that happened in your day or whatever, if he is willing to just listen and give appropriate comments at appropriate times, you know he is one man who's definitely worth your love. I seriously cannot tolerate guys who talk excessively about themselves. Like how they hurt their leg during this baseball game, or how they drove from KL to Klang and then back to KL again in just one minute, yadda yadda yadda.

I'm not saying that guys must always listen to girls when they talk and that girls don't have to bother to listen to what guys have to say, it's just, when you really care about someone, you will politely wait until she's finished talking before you proceed to talking about yourself right? I mean, when the girl wants you to listen and she shows no signs of wanting to stop, even though she's run out of things to say, then for the love of God, ask la some questions so that she can talk somemore. It shows that you really care you know. (plus of course us girls will extend the same courtesy to guys if we really care about them) (: But of course, same as the dressing up detail, the guy needs to want (this is love) to do this, and not just because he has to (this is not love). See the difference?

We always have the best conversations with each other that lasts for hours because we just fit so well together. Talking to him is a breeze because we never run out of things to say!

And even though he is a much quieter guy than I am, he still contributes his part to the conversation so comfortably.

Even in silence together we don’t feel awkward, it is almost relaxing because it feels as if we just understand each other so well and words are just unnecessary in moments like that. :3

BABY WAI ARE YOU SHO KIUT!!! ><

Last point, CHECK!!!!!!!!!!

He fits EVERY SINGLE POINT OMG I AM SO EXCITED!!!!! ><

I donno what good I have ever done in this life or my past life that made me deserve a boyfriend like Salam but I am eternally grateful to have him!!!

And look what I wrote at the end of the old blog post :

This is a freaking long post but I feel really satisfied with what I've written because well, I believe that the guy I choose to be with in future will be exactly like that.

AM I PSYCHIC OR AM I PSYCHIC?!

True, before Salam there were a couple of unsatisfactory boys, but Salam is the most serious boyfriend I have so far and he fits all the points I’ve mentioned!

This is all so true, it’s making my spine tingle! I am not sure if I will be able to go to sleep tonight because I am just so amazed! ><

And this was my cousin Audrey’s comment after she read my old post :

Audrey : I think it's prolly easier to find my dream guy (with my list of requirements) than to find yours. 8D

All I have to say is I guess you’re wrong! HIHIHIHIHIHI I AM SO HAPPY I’M ABOUT TO BURST! Can’t wait for Salam to read this!!!

I love you sayang. You’re awesome!