WOW.
MAJOR EDIT:We've sort of confronted each other about this. So I guess everything's fine now. I learn a lesson, she learns a lesson. (:dGod, I'm so glad this is over. I hate not being in good terms with people.I wanna be friends with the whole world! :DfAnd also, thanks for everybody's comments. Whether or not they're of the same opinions, doesn't matter. They helped alot. (: Ciao!d
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a Nice arguement u have given back to me and first,i thot i have overlooked.But when i checked back,i was certain i was correct.
U refer back to ur own post titled"Reality of Romance".I want u 2 read back from the line'Until.... What if he asks me for sex? Oh God. I know right?' to line'Then you talk about love and all that romantic crap.'
From The line i have asked u 2 refer,pls tell me or show me which line is stating'WHY DON'T PEOPLE WANT SEX?'of coz i dun expect exact line but at least NO POINTS ABOUT WHY DON'T PEOPLE WANT SEX IS MENTIONED.'
ur comment to my reply is a total FACADE.Not trying to relate to the post u latest wrote.It's fabrication!
this is my arguement despite the irrelevant arguement u mentioned
assuming young girls who r not as smart as those in first class r street-smart.Im very sure they are long aware and being taught by parents how to stay themselves away from men who always have draconian intention on them.They are being taught or indirectly advised to stay away from these guys.they do no want their daughter to lose their virginity or get pregant on a young age.rite?im sure u agree with this.This is wat i have to say.this is why people don't want sex even if they are pledged to the boys.It's because they are BEING TAUGHT NOT TO HAVE SEX AT YOUNG AGE OR BEFORE THEIR MARRIAGE TO AVOID THESE IRRESPONSIBLE MEN TO LEAVE THEM WHEN THEY ARE PREGNANT!u c..altho birth control can b used but is it 100% effective?and if they frequently have sex,they might accidentally spill the milk.and once shes pregnant,her whole future is vanished.too add salts into wound,they have to suffer additional torment for the aftermath of their pregnancy.This is a sin done by the man at highest magnitude.(in the event they escape from their responsibility).Furthermore,in the society where abortion is banned,these young girls aledi knew if they are pregnant,they must conceive.
all in all,these girls are smart enuff to avoid themselves into the rut of moral decay.let alone the first-class girls.
if u once given the boys sex,they ask for more.once they are bored they dump girls as they like.casanova for instead.they take it for granted.
back to the point,how can a girl trust men anymore if they aledi predict such things might happen if they were to have sex.
to feed men's ego,they love to hear girls saying i will love u forever.they are being resorted to said so to keep them in the cage as not to make them go wild.most of them r sincere but then SEX IS REALITY.WORDS ARE BYGONES IN 10 SECONDS.they really love the boys,but sex issue is still something they must think before they leap.before this is the time when their sense come alive.
Hitori> I don't think a strong argument can come from a boy who doesn't even know how to use the word facade properly in a sentence and in the right context. This is a discussion, not an argument, so lighten up will ya Mr I'm-Being-A-Total-Asshole?
You're too young to see the truth. I assume Jo must be talking about a serious relationship (as in progressing to the point of marriage), so here we go. I agree with Jo. If you are not ready to bare yourself naked or have sex with the one you love, then DO NOT COMMIT. Because to be afraid of having sex or to even show skin to the one you love, is like being unready for marriage, unready to talk about your future, or whether or not you will love the person forever. If you're not ready to be in a serious relationship, then fine, DON'T BE. JUST DATE. Just do what I do, and date a lot of guys. You can't be considered cheating if you date many guys and don't get committed to it, so in a way, you are expanding your horizons, and preparing yourself to make a decision for a more serious relationship.
A lot of people I know have had similar situations. I have friends who are so in love with each other, so devoted to each other that they already have plans to have children, where they're gonna live and how they're gonna make a living, and they've already done it. And you know what? THEY FEEL COMPLETELY SECURE. Because they trust in each other.
So yes, if you are really willing to spend your life with the one you love for all eternity, why don't you want sex? And let's not forget the root of the question, "WHY DON'T YOU WANT SEX?" not "Why don't you have sex?" So ease up on the personal insults GOD people can be so immature. Buncha whiners.
Now we don't need to get all personal and start calling each other names here, besides what you're doing (and what I am at the moment) is spam because you are commenting on a wrong post. The topic at hand now is totally irrelevant.
Jo> People are just jealous sometimes. Blogs are meant to be personal spaces where you are freely allowed to express your emotions to the fullest. How your friends misinterpret is another *coughdumbcough* situation. And I don't think you're putting up a front, you're just frustrated with things. I love my parents, but sometimes I feel angry with them and I just have to let it out, right? Your friend is being overly sensitive. Plus, I don't think any good argument can come from a person who takes things too personally and compares the sizes and capacities of people's brains in her backlashing post. It's just not substantial. Don't take it to heart. When you get to college, things'll change you'll see. You'll find people who are more mature and well....understand your intelligence a little more than others.
BTW, Adelaide is fab-u-lous!
God I am so tired of this. Asshole.
Thanks Audrey! Woots Adelaide! :D
Audrey> Yea, I thought she was someone whose opinions I cared about. But I realise I don't care what she thinks of me. I was just upset in the first place at people hating me IN GENERAL. Not just her.
She thinks that I am fake, I can't do anything. She just doesn't know me enough. And all along she's saying as if I think I'm right all the time, isn't her post portarying the Nabiness too? She also THINKS she's so right in that post.
Whatever.
Jo> Atta girl. Y'know what, people are just immature and jealous of how articulate you are. Just cos' they can't express feelings the way that you do, doesn't mean what you're doing is wrong. Everyone has their own beliefs, and she did say that she doesn't believe what you're doing is considered what friends should be doing (assuming it's you she's talking about). But yes like you said, in a way she is implying that her school of thought is correct, while yours is wrong. Technically there is no objectivity in relationships, so who's to say neither of you are wrong? What you should do is ignore her, and go on believing what you are believing (holy fuck this sounds like an effing sermon). Now she said you're not being much of a friend? She's not being much of a friend either if she chose to use personal attacks instead of civil discussion. So why waste your time with these people if they obviously don't give a rat's-ass about you? If they can't accept who you are, who are you to give two hoots about them? You got me? ^^
Be careful who you hang out with, and be careful how you hang out with people. Honestly (and I'm sorry to refer to my friends YET again), if they were real true friends to you, you wouldn't have anything to get frustrated about anyway.
True. I hope she realises that yea, I have complained about my 'beloved friend' Cherrie in my post too, and Cherrie herself HAS READ that post even and we worked things out. Simply because we trust each other and we value our friendship.
I am not hiding anything (my posts are open to the PUBLIC EYE). So how can she say that I am being FAKE (when I know ANYONE's gonna come across my blog)?
I seriously do not understand this at all.
I'm not condemning anyone through my blog, I'm just expressing myself.
haha...
not reli painful...
I din mean u...
but someppl that i always trust them...
Perhaps the way you put your words were slightly provoking?
I mean, it's alright if you want to blog about a friend who did something you don't agree with, and you can blog about it, and be angry with it, but try to be more subtle because frankly it's hurting(even if it's true) and people will defend themselves even when they know they are wrong to begin with just to protect their own image. What I'm saying is, let them know they are wrong, and hope they will change, because who are we to teach them a lesson? we can only advice them, and let them choose if they take it or not.
I learned this thru forums that when you write about people even in your own space, as long as it's public anyone can comment. No blog has 100% support from everyone, everyone has haters and frankly, some of them are just troublemakers who needs a good whip in their raw genitals. If you are ready to talk about anyone, be ready for anyone to talk about you.
Fact of bloggin. =/
"If you are ready to talk about anyone, be ready for anyone to talk about you."
I actually thought about this when I sat down the other day. It's true.
But the way this is going is making life very difficult for me. I've made it clear to people that when I blog about them, after writing, I'm over it. And that's why I can still be in good terms with a lot of people.
But it's difficult knowing that she's writing about me, but not confronting me about it.
I don't know how I'm supposed to act around her. And then how about mututal friends? They don't know that this is happening, so they still do stuff that gets me and her together, and then things get awkward because I don't know if I'm supposed to talk to her or not, or are we already considered fighting through our blog posts.
I've never condemned her in my blog. I've never tarnished her reputation or back-stabbed her in any way. What is she trying to do me?
So right now I'm staying away as far as possible from having any contact with her, thus minimalising any awkward situations we may have to deal with. And it seems as if I'm at fault, as opposed to a simple misunderstanding, as what is actually is.
I'm taking everything in my stride, hoping it will make things easier for everyone. And thank God people, like Cherrie, who trust me, still exist in school. She makes things so much easier.
I guess to her it was just casual ranting in her blog(i didnt see her blog) thus didn't see the importance of confronting you.
If I were you, I just go on like I do always, I smile if there is eye contact, only talk to her if she talks to me or when I have to. i won't let it get to me, and I'll show her it doesn't bother me one bit, coz she's just an everyday common bugger and I wouldn't waste my life on her. You shouldn't let her bug you, if you think she's not worth it.
But knowing I've already read her blog and it did affect me, it's not so easy to let it slide, you know?
But I guess I'm fine now. (:
Errors, you may delete the previous post. If you feel like you should avoid her, I only ask that you go for it ONLY if you wanna cut ties. It seems you're having trouble letting go of all the times you guys had together. It's fine if you feel you wanna fix things. People make mistakes after all. I've made a few as well in my relationships (most of them misunderstandings thank God). Now I also suggest you take into consideration the people in the middle, your mutual friends. Like when Eric and i found out that Carmen broke up with Vincent, it was difficult for us to have gatherings and invite both of them and stuff since we were friends with both parties. So if you're planning to cut ties, you better let your friends know. If not, then well...fix things. ^^ Like when you ranted on Cherrie, and you guys got back together, this can be the same.
I've never planned to cut ties. Because I've never even really tot about this tie we have. But we're fine now i guess. at least we talk, you know? (:
One advice left : Instead of letting it slide, be the bigger man (or woman?) and be the first to seek peace with her. Since you don't really want to cut ties with her, it means she is still a friend to you. Since you value this friendship so much, enough that it still holds your feelings for her even after all this, might as well be the first to seek reconcilation, without thinking about who's in the wrong.
Jo> That's the spirit. If you guys are still talking, seems like you've already made your decision. ^^ Now you're on your way to a mending relationship! And what Manda says is right, if you wanna make things right, take the initiative and show how much you care. I'm glad things are patching up between you guys. Sometimes things like these can bring you closer. What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger y'know what I mean?
Funny cos this was sort of all resolved before I even read your comments. (: I smiled to her to day. (:
Jo> Awesome. 8D
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