HOW TO GET OVER YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND

I am going to come right out and say it.

During my last break-up, it was HELL. I felt so much like a loser, my self-esteem plunged and I always wondered if I could ever like anyone again.

Dramatic, naive, stupid, bla bla bla I know. But it’s normal right? Tell me one person who had just been dumped by her boyfriend but didn’t feel that way?

That’s correct. NONE. Unless she had stopped loving him from the start, didn’t really love him anyway etc etc

ANYWAY.

What I want to blog about today is despite the fact that it was my worst break-up so far, I am completely healed! And the process of my healing was also the BEST so far I’ve had!

So as the kind and thoughtful girl that I am, today I want to share with you guys :

HOW TO GET OVER YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND

1) Mourn and cry

The first week of the break-up, you are bound to feel like you want to die, that you wish that everything never happened the way it did, but GUESS WHAT. It has HAPPENED. Nothing’s gonna change that. So just mourn! And cry! Cry as much as you want! Get everything out of your system once and for all!

Don’t ever restrain from crying when you feel like it because that just makes everything even harder later on. You won’t be able to let go of him so easily if you stopped yourself from being sad over him.

Just be yourself, let your mind be upset, let your mind feel like dying and let your mind go through the effects of the break-up thoroughly. This has to happen in order for you to feel satisfied.

But NEVER ever resort to killing yourself. Because then you’re spoiling the game and your healing won’t work.

Because then you will never heal. For the rest of your memory (not life, because duh, you’re dead) you will be remembered as someone who killed yourself for a douchebag who dumped you.

So play wise! You want to win this game! You want to be healed!

Because mourning and crying sets a reminder to yourself for the rest of your life. (more on that later)

2) Find someone else

After your first week (or first few weeks) of living like the dead, it is time to start afresh! Don’t worry if it’s only your first week and you still don’t feel like starting afresh anytime. IT WILL COME SOON. Take your time! But don’t purposefully drown yourself in sorrow! Everything will come naturally! Just fall within the pace and you will be fine!

As I was saying, START AFRESH! Flirt with guys, look out for hotties, make yourself beautiful to restore your self-esteem.

Find someone who is worthy of your time and spend alot of time with him. BUT! Do not make this forceful, make sure you yourself are game to participate, or not you will just end up feeling like a user. YOU DON’T WANT THAT.

You want to be a GOOD COMPANION instead! Don’t worry that you won’t be able to have fun at all after your break up, because YOU WILL!

You just need to find the right type of guy.

Make him appreciate you! If he doesn’t, find someone else who does! Don’t worry, you WILL find someone! Just make sure you appreciate yourself first and nothing would be a problem!

If it works out between you and the guy, take him! (love is a gamble anyway but you should ALWAYS know where your stakes stand)

If it doesn’t, remain close friends, if he is worth it, he will stay, if he is not, soon enough he will disappear from your life. And nobody loses anything because everything is mutual.

Plus point : If it works out between you and the guy, you get a new boyfriend who appreciates you more! Or if it doesn’t work out, at least he helped you restore your self-esteem!

3) Keep the things he ever gave you

Contrary to popular belief, you should NOT throw away the things that your ex-boyfriend ever gave you. Especially those that you liked. Keep them! Store them!

Because they are YOURS! They show how much you are worth even to a guy who dumped you and they also serve as a reminder to yourself about the jerk you used to date but no longer pine for!

Those things will of course be painful to look at during the process of your healing, but don’t worry, at the end of everything, they will serve as good objects to help you maintain your healed condition.

Keep them where they are to remind you of the jerk who you once dated so that you will never fall for those guys again.

Same as the mourning and crying thing, they serve to remind you of how stupid you have once been for crying so much over a jerk like that. So much wasted time and tears.

And then you will become stronger as you realise you are worth much more than how the guy treated you before!

4) However, delete him from Facebook

Facebook is like a warzone. You get to see all sorts of things done by all sorts of people.

You can see the way they live their lives, whether or not they are happy, or sad, or fucked up.

THIS IS VITAL! Because you do NOT want to see your ex all happy and glad that he has broken up with you. You want to WIN the game. You want to live like he is REGRETFUL that he ever let you go. Whether it’s true or not, it doesn’t matter. As long as you don’t expose yourself to the truth, you can pretty much create your OWN truth.

If you are happy, then allow your profile to be seen by the public. Because you know what? HE WILL COME AND CHECK OUT YOUR PROFILE.

Show him how happy you are. Rub it in his face that his departure meant so little to you. Make sure he KNOWS that he is the regretful one.

But if you are very upset, then keep your profile private. Don’t let him know that you are suffering. Keep him in the dark. That will torture him.

However, make sure you don’t go to his profile to check out about him even after you have deleted him. But that would be really hard because we ourselves want to know if the break up affected HIM! Believe me, I did that SO many times I cried everytime I did that.

So if worse comes to worst and you can’t stop yourself from visiting his profile even after you deleted him, BLOCK him from Facebook altogether.

This prevents you from ever being able to stalk him again. And everything will become easier because you don’t know the truth.

But don’t forget the same theory, if you are happy, public-able your profile. If you are sad, make your profile private.

Because he WILL, WITHOUT FAIL, try stalking you from other people’s profile. He won’t be able to stop himself. Guys have this natural need of dominance to know that they have a huge effect on girls. So he will definitely try to find out.

That said, there is no need to delete his friends from your Facebook, because you need to allow him a subtle way to continue to feel like the loser who stalks his ex-girlfriend.

5) Admit out loud that he was a jerk

It may seem hard to call someone you used to love so much a jerk but just do it!

If you have no intentions of ever being together with him again, don’t worry about the insults! PILE THEM UP.

If a guy can hurt you that way, convince yourself that he is not worth a second chance. This is where the mourning and crying come in handy.

If you ever get back together with the jerk who dumped you, you are opening yourself to the possibility that you WILL go through the same shit (maybe even worse) again when he dumps you. All the mourning and crying and feeling like dying. Is it worth it?

If he can hurt you once, he can hurt you twice. Don’t give him a chance! There are many more guys out there who is worthy of you.

I believe that someone who loves you will try all he can to maintain a relationship with you. There is just no excuse for a break up except that he doesn’t really love you.

Need to study, family objection, no money etc ALL BULLSHIT. If the guy wants you, he will brave through EVERYTHING to be with you.

Once you admit to yourself that you have wasted your time with him, it will gradually become easier to let him go.

After all, who needs a jerk in their life?

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If you manage to accomplish all that, CONGRATULATIONS, you are HEALED!

And what’s even better is you will never let a guy hurt you like that again because you know better now.

To me, if a guy can hurt you so much and for so long, then he is not worth a second chance at all. Don’t let yourself down. Hold your head up and believe in yourself. Don’t ever sell yourself short!

Someday, somewhere, someone who truly loves you will appear. Meanwhile, have all the fun you can!

One easy way to convince yourself that you should not be treated badly is reminding yourself about your mum.

Your mum loves you the way you are and you know she always will. Would she be happy if her own precious daughter allows herself to be treated badly by another guy? You have self-worth because your mum has self-worth. She gave birth to you and shared you with the world. She wants the whole world to love you like she does. She did not give birth to you so that you can be hurt.

Appreciate those little facts. We all have self-worth. Those who abuse us have no right to hurt us in anyway.

So buck up and make sure nobody ever hurts you again!

Hope this helped you/you enjoyed! BYE BYE!

P/S : I FORGOT TO MENTION! After all those steps and you have finally healed, your ex-boyfriend will DEFINITELY, WITHOUT FAIL text you one day out of the blue! He will pretend that he is being friendly, when in actual fact, he wants to know how you are doing! He wants to find out if you are still affected! Don’t fall for his cheap lies and ways!

DO NOT ignore his friendly messages because if you do, it means that you are still affected by him that you kenot even manage to have any contact with him. The correct way is to text him indifferently. Make him feel like he is nothing to you. This will make him go crazy!

Soon enough, after more of these indifferent messages, he will suddenly become ANGRY! And VIOLENT! Because he kenot take it that you have completely got over him! So there, that shows you what kind of a jerk he is capable of being. You will feel GRATEFUL that you didn’t give in to his pretentious ways.

And then you will live happily ever after knowing that you will/can never be hurt again.

P/S 2 : So that means DON’T delete his number from your phone! Because you want to be able to know when he texts/calls you. AH! Talking about calls, NEVER ANSWER! Because we can fake indifference through text but it’s abit trickier through calls. So just ignore his calls EVERYTIME and text him back after that, making an excuse about how you were busy etc etc

P/S 3 : And NEVER agree to go out with him again. Even with friends, or alone, whatever. NEVER. Because then it would be even HARDER to fake indifference. And you are letting him win by allowing him to find out how you are currently doing.

P/S 4 : Except of course if you guys have been friends a long time before you got together and the friendship can still remain normal even after break up and if you have many CLOSE mutual friends, then most of the tips I gave won’t work. LOL But other than that my tips are FAB.

Lao eh……………

This CNY I am damn pissed.

First let me show you guys a current photo of me. Ok to be fair, I shall post an ugly and fat photo of me so that you guys can see me in my actual form :

Okay fine I don’t have any fat photos of me because I deleted them all so this is one that looks quite close to being as fat as I actually am.

My arms are HUGE and my face is DAMN CHUBBY. In real life, I am probably 5 times even fatter.

So anyway, innocent me with probably arms the size of your average thigh (exaggeration) was strutting around in my spaghetti strapped purple dress all happy to see all my relatives together (which rarely happens).

I like and hate CNY for the same reason : I get to meet all my relatives at the same place.

I like it because I can see how much they’ve changed and to just see everyone having a good time together but I also hate it because it means I have to be fake and act as if I am very interested in their lives and ask them about it, which I am usually not. Like, seriously, if it doesn’t concern me, I don’t give a shit.

So anyway, I was at the table having lunch and I was really trying to watch my diet because I don’t want to be more fat than I am now but suddenly, my uncle appeared right beside me.

He came and then saw that I was eating and immediately made the comment “WAH! So fat already still eat so much ahhhhhhhh…hahaha!”

I was like WTF.

First of all, my bowl was only like a quarter full and I only had like one veggie and some rice inside. Second of all, I very fat meh that you need to comment such a thing to my face?! Thirdly, even IF I am fat, FAT NO NEED TO EAT AH CHAO CHEE BYE

That was my LUNCH for god’s sake and seeing that I woke up quite late that day, it was my first meal of the day leh. First meal also kenot eat, then forever no need to eat is it?

What the fuck man.

Even if you really think that I am really fat and shouldn’t be eating just keep your mouth shut lah! Do I look like the type who would immediately stop eating just because you said something like that? You supermodel ah that I need to accept beauty advices from you?! KNN

I know that you might think I am taking this too seriously, that he might be joking etc but come on lah, isn’t there at least a bit of truth in every joke? And EVEN if he was joking, was it nice of him to say such hurtful words to my face?

AND I WASN’T EVEN EATING ALOT LOH GODAMMIT.

And I am not even done. Later that day, I went to ANOTHER uncle’s house and it was already HOURS past my lunch time. So practically it was almost time for dinner but not quite there yet.

So as a NORMAL HUMAN BEING with a fully functional digestive system, isn’t it NATURAL that I would get at least a little bit hungry by that time?

Of course I went to the kitchen to find some food, and same as my lunch, I only took VERY LITTLE FOOD, little as in probably 4 bites?

I was innocently eating, just to fill my stomach and suddenly my OTHER uncle came and said the EXACT SAME SENTENCE TO ME “WAH! So fat already still eat so much ahhhhhhhh…hahaha!”

WTF WTF WTFFFFFFFFFF CAN’T I EAT IN PEACE?!

So this time I got damn pissed off and I said to his face “ALOT MEH. If like this also kenot eat then I forever no need to eat lah right?” And then he pretended to be busy with something else and ignored me.

DAMN PISSED OFF LAH. I VERY FAT MEH?! Fine I agree I am not skinny and I am not even of average size, I AM BIG AND BULKY. But does that give you the right to hurt my feelings that way?

Everything also kenot everything also fat AS IF YOU ARE VERY THIN AND GORGEOUS.

Can I like go to your face and be like “WAHHHH so ugly already still smoke?”

Can I say that? Because smoking makes you a HUNDRED times uglier than you already are. But can I say that to your face? How about “WAHHHHH so stupid already still want to talk nonsense and act smart in front of people?”

CAN I SAY THAT TO YOU?!?!??!?!

SO ANGRY LAH!!!

And that is not even enough, I went to my cousin’s BBQ party the other day and I met one cousin whom I had not seen for quite awhile.

So we were talking and my sister randomly asked him what type of girls would be considered pretty to him.

And so with his usual foul mouth he said “Anyone who is thinner than my sister consider pretty already lah…hahahaha!” And I already thought that he was fucking mean. Yes, his sister was a bit chubby but DEFINITELY NOT FAT.

But the nerve of that bastard, right after he said that you know what he said to me? He turned to me and went, “Hahaha…you lose already lah like that…hahaha!”

WTF KNN I may not be thin but overall I think I look less chubby than his sister, but probably because I am BIG and TALL that I appear to be much fatter than her. Even so, SHOULD HE HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY THAT TO MY FACE?

KNN SAY THAT I AM FAT AND UGLY AT THE SAME TIME WHO DOES HE FUCKING THINK HE IS?!

Then I said to him, “You damn bad lah…hahaha.” Like everyone else, I added the “hahaha” to sound less offensive but the whole night after that I was damn regretful lah! I should have been like, “HAHAHA fat but luckily not as ugly as YOU!” and quickly walk away before he retorted. KNN FUCKING PISSED OFF.

WHY ARE GUYS THSE DAYS SO BLOODY TACTLESS AND EGOISTIC?!

THEY THINK THEY ARE SO PERFECT MEH THAT THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO CRITICISE OTHERS?!

Even if they do think that some people are not pretty what makes them think that it is okay to say it out loud RIGHT at the person’s face?!

Fucking assholes!!! And worst of all, they are not even lookers themselves!!!

My cousin is fucking disgusting and he is NOT EVEN THIN HIMSELF. If I was as mean as he is, I would have said that he was ugly and fat all the time right at his face too! BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I THINK OF HIM KNNCCB

Why are people so full of themselves? Do they really think that they themselves are flawless? Who gives them the right to hurt someone’s feelings LET ALONE A GIRL’S FEELINGS like that?

I was so affected by this but I didn’t know who I could complain to. If I complained to my mum or sister they would have been all, “But it’s true what.” TRUE YOUR FUCKING ASS LAH. Would you like it if I said such things to you? Would you accept them willingly? Won’t you be hurt too?

So I told Salam about this and I even cried because I couldn’t understand what was so wrong with me that everyone had to put me down like that. Am I really THAT ugly? Am I really SO fat?

Salam said those people are assholes and I am just beautiful the way I am. I know he is my boyfriend and he SHOULD say that I am beautiful just to pacify me and it could very well not be his honest opinion but you know what?

I KNOW he means what he said and I AGREE. I am beautiful in my own way and I don’t give a shit if you think otherwise. Just don’t be fucking tactless as to say it to my face to hurt me like that. I have feelings too fuckers.

And to further prove my point here are my weight and height and BMI. I don’t usually share this with people but I no longer give a shit.

WEIGHT : 73 kg
HEIGHT : 172 cm
BMI : 24.7

For you brainless assholes out there, 18.5–24.9 is considered fucking NORMAL weight (25 and above is overweight - obese). Woohoo guess what? I AM NORMAL. SO FUCK OFF.

I know I am precariously at the brink of almost being overweight but even so, my BMI is fucking accurate right? I never said I was thin. But I am DEFINITELY not overweight. I may look fat to your bloody eyes but guess what, I AM HEALTHY. And that is good enough for me.

Yes, I would love to lose a few more pounds, but that is up to ME to decide, NOT YOU FUCKING ASSHOLES.

So next time keep your fucking opinions to yourselves. Unless you are a supermodel or whoever with certified beauty, don’t come barking up my tree about how I should eat less or whatever to become less fat/ugly.

ESPECIALLY WHEN ALL OF YOU ARE FUCK UGLY YOURSELVES.

PS : And I also found out my asshole cousin got dumped by his girlfriend recently, so serves him right man! Even though I knew it was bound to happen, with a mouth as foul as his. GEEZ.

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For this batch, I only ship to Klang Parade ok! :) But don't hesitate to tell me your location, I'll see if I can make it (NEAR KLANG PARADE AREAS ONLY)!

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UPDATE #2! : TO BE FAIR, IF THE ITEM(S) HAVE MORE THAN ONE BUYER AT THE SAME TIME, I WILL START A BID SO THAT THE ITEM(S) GO TO THE HIGHEST BIDDER, FAIR AND SQUARE! THANK YOU!!!

#18 Floral romper

Bought at : RM30
Selling at : RM20
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only ONCE!

#19 Floral top (with lace detail)

Bought at : RM30
Selling at : RM15
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only ONCE!

#20 Yellow dress/long top (with knitted detail)

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only TWICE!

#21 Stripes dress

Bought from Taiwan
Bought at : RM30
Selling at : RM20
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only ONCE!

#22 Floral dress (with lace detail)

Bought from Nichii
Bought at : RM70
Selling at : RM50
♥ Size S (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only TWICE!

#23 Grey dress (with stud detail)

Bought at : RM40
Selling at : RM25
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only ONCE!

#24 Printed cropped cardigan

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Worn less than 5 times!

#25 Floral dress

Bought from Cotton On
Bought at : RM65
Selling at : RM40
♥ Size S (fits S, M)
♥ Never worn before!

#26 Floral top

Bought from P & Co.
Bought at : RM50
Selling at : RM30
♥ Size M (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn only ONCE!

#27 Dress with denim bottom (with denim bow)

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15
♥ Free size (fits S, M)
♥ Never worn before!

Anybody interested just post comments or post at the chatbox on the right ok! Sending me an email (joey_joeldavid@yahoo.com) would be fine too! THANK YOU!

PS : This batch of clothes belong to my cousin, so if you are interested, I will give you her contact details ok? THANK YOU!

I feel that I am very selfish sometimes.

Today is my boyfriend’s birthday. About a week ago, I’d already planned to spend his birthday with him. He says his family doesn’t do birthdays much, so I thought I would try to brighten things up and make him a birthday that he wouldn’t forget.

But suddenly (though if I was honest, I’d say I actually expected it), his mom called and told him to go back to his hometown in Kelantan because his dad was feeling unwell (though Salam reports that his dad is thankfully fine, currently) yesterday. And so all my birthday plans would have to be postponed.

I was damn sad lah.

And then after he’d reached home, he told me about his plans to cook chicken chop for his family and I could really tell that he was genuinely happy and excited to be home.

I mean, after all, they are his closest companions.

Somehow, that hurt me. I mean, I know I am not supposed to be so selfish that I wanted him to feel upset that he could not be with me just because I was feeling sad too, but I just couldn’t help it. I was angry that he could still enjoy himself despite the fact that all our plans had been ruined.

Apart from that, I was also upset that he’d just arrived home but he had already planned to cook for his family.

It got me thinking, how come he had never offered to cook for me before? I mean, he has cooked for me before, but it is always after my demands and requests.

And most of the time, I am the one who cooks for him and everything.

It somehow made me feel as if he actually doesn’t enjoy being with me and his family definitely brings him more happiness than anyone else could ever do.

But how is that wrong though? His family has known him for his entire life. And me? I only popped out 6 months ago. Who am I to compare?

I just felt really sad and angry at myself at the same time, because I knew I should be happy. I know I should not get angry.

But I can’t control these emotions, can I?

And then it got me thinking…..

Would I marry a man who loves his family more than me?

Someone who, if his mother and I were drowning in the ocean and if he doesn’t save one of us, both would die and he could only save one person, and he chooses his mother?

I posted this on Facebook and many people said that of course they would choose their mother, I was stupid for asking the question, they don’t think there’s anything wrong by saving his mother bla bla bla.

But to me, yes, saving his mother would be the right choice. Because she was the one who raised him to who he is today.

But supposing this DOES happen to me, and I have to marry a guy who will forever choose his family over me?

Someone whom I have decided to spend my entire life with, but doesn’t put me first in his life, but second, or third depending on how many family members he has?

You guys think that it is very easy to answer, that I am being selfish, but I guess that is because you have never been in love.

For now, the most love you feel is for your family, because you haven’t found someone you truly love yet. You haven’t found someone you are willing to give up your life for.

So your opinions all do not matter to me.

I am not saying that I would want the man to say that he would save me. Because then I would also resent him for loving someone whom he had met outside, and choosing her over someone whom he was raised by.

I was just looking for a man who would answer that he would not allow that to happen, or that he would try his hardest to save both, or that he would not under any circumstance sacrifice one over another.

That is true love to me.

But I guess those people who answered me by saying that they would definitely save their mother over their wife are just really naive and immature. Not that that is a bad thing, because everybody takes time to grow and to fall in love. They will understand what I mean one day.

Back to my point. Sadly though, I think Salam is the type who would save his mother over me.

I can’t confirm for sure, but I just have a vague feeling that he is that type of guy.

I mean, it is a good thing, to be appreciative of your mother, the one who raised you and who is related to you in blood.

But is that good for me?

Should I marry a guy who I know will never put me first in his life? Someone who will always choose others over me?

Would I want to live my life with someone who doesn’t love me the most?

I don’t even know if this is a valid concern.

But I do know that these problems will arise one day (it has already happened, though, as illustrated by the fact that once his mother demanded, he immediately drove back to Kelantan, even though I already have plans with him), I am just not sure if I would be happy to be treated second best by the man I love my entire life.

And even now, he would NEVER choose me over his family.

I know I’m not supposed to be upset or angry or jealous, but I just can’t help it.

I mean, if it were me, I would balance things out between family and friends.

But is it unfair for me to demand the same from my boyfriend?

I don’t know. I just don’t want to be hurt, that’s all.

Apart from all that, I know that Salam does love me very much. I just hope I wouldn’t have to feel like this.

PART 2 : ONLINE CLOTHES FOR SALE. CUTE CLOTHES SALE. BRAND NEW. ONLINE BLOG SALE. NICE CLOTHES. CHEAP PRICES!

You can check out Part 1 HERE.

CHECK IT OUT! I bought these clothes, some worn once, some brand new but I'm selling at only a fraction of its original price. Reason for selling : I just simply can't/don't wear them anymore! (I only sell my clothes which are still in PERFECT CONDITION, so don't worry!)

Also, I preferably only ship to Klang areas ok! :) But don't hesitate to tell me your location, I'll see if I can make it!

UPDATE! : DUE TO UNEXPECTED HIGH DEMAND FOR THE ITEMS, I'M MAKING EVERYTHING A FIRST PAY, FIRST SERVED BASIS! THANK YOU!!!

UPDATE #2! : TO BE FAIR, IF THE ITEM(S) HAVE MORE THAN ONE BUYER AT THE SAME TIME, I WILL START A BID SO THAT THE ITEM(S) GO TO THE HIGHEST BIDDER, FAIR AND SQUARE! THANK YOU!!!

(SOLD) #8 Dark blue denim jacket

Bought at : RM129
Selling at : RM40 (SOLD)
♥ Size XL (fits M, L, XL)
♥ Worn only TWICE!
♥ Very, very awesome!

(SOLD) #9 Floral dress with zipper

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only TWICE!
♥ Good quality!

(SOLD) #10 Grey dress (with lace detail)

Bought at : RM79
Selling at : RM28 (SOLD)
Bought from Padini Authentics
♥ Size L (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn less than 5 times!
♥ Great quality!

(SOLD) #11 Floral fleece dress/long top

Bought at : RM30
Selling at : RM20 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Never worn before!
♥ Awesome quality!

(SOLD) #12 Polka dot dress/long top (with knitted detail) <BLUE>

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn only TWICE!
♥ Good quality!

(SOLD) #13 Polka dot dress/long top (with knitted detail) <GREY>

Bought at : RM25 RM14.90 (Thanks to a reader who found this. Lol, sorry, I really forgot! The BLUE one above though is the one that is RM25. Sorry for the mistake guys! Anyhow, it's still in good condition! And I already explained to my buyer! She's ok with it!)
Selling at : RM15 RM10 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn only 3 times!
♥ Good quality!

Can be worn like this!

#14 Hot pink dress (plunging V-neck)

Bought at : RM30
Selling at : RM20
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn only 3 times!
♥ Good quality!

(SOLD) #15 Grey printed tee (with stud detail)

Bought at : RM35
Selling at : RM20 (SOLD)
♥ Free S (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only 3 times!
♥ Good quality!

#16 White tee (with stitched on detail)

Bought at : RM39
Selling at : RM15
Bought from Giordano
♥ Size S (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only 3 times!
♥ Good quality!

#17 Light denim mini skirt

Bought at : RM40
Selling at : RM25
Bought from Brands Outlet
♥ Size 8 (fits M, L)
♥ Worn less than 5 times!
♥ Awesome quality!

Anybody interested just post comments or post at the chatbox on the right ok! Sending me an email (joey_joeldavid@yahoo.com) would be fine too! THANK YOU!

ONLINE CLOTHES FOR SALE. CUTE CLOTHES SALE. BRAND NEW. ONLINE BLOG SALE. NICE CLOTHES. CHEAP PRICES!

Okay I guess my title has enough tag words to bring any online shoppers here! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

CHECK IT OUT! I bought these clothes, some worn once, some brand new but I'm selling at only a fraction of its original price. Reason for selling : I just simply can't/don't wear them anymore! (I only sell my clothes which are still in PERFECT CONDITION, so don't worry!)

Also, I preferably only ship to Klang areas ok! :) But don't hesitate to tell me your location, I'll see if I can make it!

UPDATE! : DUE TO UNEXPECTED HIGH DEMAND FOR THE ITEMS, I'M MAKING EVERYTHING A FIRST PAY, FIRST SERVED BASIS! THANK YOU!!!

UPDATE #2! : TO BE FAIR, IF THE ITEM(S) HAVE MORE THAN ONE BUYER AT THE SAME TIME, I WILL START A BID SO THAT THE ITEM(S) GO TO THE HIGHEST BIDDER, FAIR AND SQUARE! THANK YOU!!!

(SOLD) #1 White lace cropped jacket (with hood!)

Bought at : RM33
Selling at : RM20 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M)
♥ Never worn before!
♥ Awesome quality!

#2 Colourful stripes cropped cardigan

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Never worn before!
♥ Good quality!

#3 Blue stripes dress (with pockets!)

Bought at : RM50
Selling at : RM25
♥ Bought from Brands Outlet
♥ Size M (fits S, M)
♥ Worn only ONCE!
♥ Good quality!

#4 Black lace mini skirt

Bought at : RM59
Selling at : RM25
♥ Bought from Kitschen
♥ Size L (fits M, L)
♥ Never worn before!
♥ Awesome quality!

#5 Pale blue dress

Bought at : RM69
Selling at : RM30
♥ Bought from Nichii
♥ Size L (fits L, XL)
♥ Never worn before!
♥ Awesome quality!

(SOLD) #6 Blue & white cute Sailor Dress

Bought at : RM25
Selling at : RM15 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn only ONCE!

Can be worn like this! UBER CUTE!

(SOLD) #7 Sheer floral dress/long top

Bought at : RM30
Selling at : RM15 (SOLD)
♥ Free size! (fits S, M, L)
♥ Worn only ONCE!
♥ Good quality!

That’s all for now! I will update with more clothes soon!

Anybody interested just post comments or post at the chatbox on the right ok! Sending me an email (joey_joeldavid@yahoo.com) would be fine too! THANK YOU!

I’ve never understood.

How come I don’t believe in the existence of God?

How come some people can put their whole mind and soul into a religion?

Why can’t I share the same faith as them and why won’t my mind believe that God does exist?

I wouldn’t want to indulge in blind faith, just to conform to social norms. I want to be able to believe in the existence of God with all my heart. But I just can’t.

Why?

There are too many loopholes and pressing questions about religions.

Especially God. In Islam, some say that when we are granted “hidayah” (guidance) we will be able to believe in God. We will understand his leads. We will fill him in our hearts.

But how come I’ve never gotten any hidayah? (I mean not only in Islam, but other religions as well)

If we are all meant to believe in God Almighty, how come he doesn’t CREATE me as someone who believes in him? Why am I created as such that I can’t believe in supernatural stuff?

And some say we have to work hard to find hidayah. But how about those who have worked hard, but slowly only succumbed to blind faith and not sincere beliefs? I am sure there are people like this.

How about those who tried hard to believe in God, but have never succeeded?

And to say that God chooses his people, then how come he doesn’t choose me?

If God has already chosen his selected clan of people, why did he even bother to create me?

He creates me as a being that denies his existence, and then punishes me for not believing in him? Isn’t that a bit pointless and unfair?

I just don’t understand how it works. It baffles me. I’m asking all these questions because if I WERE to be granted hidayah one day, I would not hesitate to join its religion.

And doesn’t that prove that I am sincere enough to want to be able to understand God?

But how come until now I haven’t got any hidayah?

Am I not the chosen one? My teacher has told me before that God actually chooses his people. So does that mean that God has overlooked me? Am I excluded? If yes, then why punish me in the end? It is not my intention to disbelieve him. I am just created this way.

And also, if things were to be like this, why create me in the first place just to punish me later when I die?

I’ve read religious books about the olden days (when religions just started) where there had been natural disasters casted upon those clans who denied the existence of God and refused to follow its religion. But if God is the one who created us and made us who we are, why did he punish those people for not believing in him?

It was God’s decision, wasn’t it?

So doesn’t that SLIGHTLY mean that humans MIGHT not be created by God?

The one thing that I cannot tolerate is, we always thank God for the good happenings, but we never blame him for the bad things that occur.

For example, if everything that happens on Earth is decided by God, then how come he allowed the Tsunami disaster in 2004 to happen?

If ALL of those who were perished were not religious, then I can understand. But the thing is, I’m sure there WERE some religious people who were killed in the disaster too. So what was the point in causing the Tsunami?

Isn’t that just unfair? Why did he allow those who believe in him to die as well?

Doesn’t that just mean that everything that happens on Earth is NOT necessarily decided by God? I mean, how can he be so cruel?

Another question is this : Is our every action decided by God?

Or do we have free will?

Look at it this way:

You are a religious person. You stand by the sidewalk. You intend to cross the street. You start to walk but at the last minute, you don’t because you stop to check your watch. Suddenly, a collision between two buses occurs right in front of you. If you hadn’t stop to check your watch, you would have been hit by the two buses and be killed instantly.

But because you didn’t cross the street at that precise time, you are safe. And then you immediately start to thank God for making you check your watch and looking over you from above to prevent you from crossing the road. Because of God, you stand to live till this day.

Thus, you agree that God controls your actions. So, there is no free will.

Then how about this?

You cheat in an exam, you rob people, you rape people and you hurt people. Are your actions ALSO controlled by God then?

Of course your answer would be NO. So all the good things are by God, but the bad things are suddenly your own free will? Is that logic?

And if God doesn’t want us to sin, how come he ALLOWS us to sin in the first place?

I’m so perplexed by all this.

Is all so……….wrong and false.

So does God actually exist? I don’t think so.

For me, I will just remain a disbeliever of God unless/until there are solid reasons or at least some faith in me to believe in the existence of God.

I won’t blindly abide by blind faith. I need to have a clear understanding. And so far, I haven’t found any.

That’s why I’m confused by all religious people.

Don’t they have questions like these too? Or are they just blindly following their faith? Why don’t they have any confusions or at least inquiries? Why are they so sure about their religion when it is clear that there are so many loopholes and doubts?

So don’t blame me if I don’t believe in your religion. It is not my fault that everything sounds so doubtful.

And really, try answering my questions. I have many more other inquiries about religions too, so accept the challenge to answer them and prove that your religion is RIGHT.

If you have so much passion towards it, I would also love to see the reasons behind your beliefs.

PS : And how about the fact that we always claim that God decides when we are going to die? If that is so, why don’t we just walk into streets without checking for oncoming cars? Why don’t we just consume poison all we want and not bother about our health since to remain alive is not under our control anyway? Why don’t we just stab ourselves or jump from buildings? Why are we constantly trying to stay alive when we believe that our deaths are decided by God anyway? If you think that you will only die when God permits you to, then I challenge you to walk into the pathway of an oncoming giant truck going at a speed of 160 km/h. Then we’ll see if you get killed instantly.

Or is your walking into its pathway controlled by God too? So does it mean God DOES want you to die in that gruesome way even though you believe in him sincerely? Can you find an answer to that? I doubt it.

WAH!

How long has it been since I’ve last blogged? I don’t even remember. I only know it’s damn long ago…

Super long until my laptop is all chapped up and mouldy already.

Dowan la…paiseh to show you all the photo of my laptop…not nice one…

What? You insist? Ok la ok la I show you all. But must promise not to laugh ok?
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MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HOW NICE IS THAT?!

I just reskinned my laptop! AND IT IS NOW IN LEOPARD PRINT!!!!!!!!!!!

And that thing on the keyboard is my phone. WHICH I HAVE ALSO STUCK ON THE SAME LEOPARD PRINT FABRIC.

And the best thing? I bought the whole piece of fabric (there is still some leftover) for only………RM2.50!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AWESOME OR NOT! LOVES LOVES LOVES!

Dowan to tell you all where I got the fabric. Later all of you also copy my style KENOT! lololol ok ok just ask me if you want to know ok? If my mood is good I will tell you where ok! HEHEHEHEHE

Ok so the reason I am blogging today is because I want to talk about one of my “friends”. Let’s call him X.

X is very annoying. Even though I don’t hang out with him much, but we still sometimes talk on Facebook.

I mean, we used to be quite close, before he went to college lah, but ever since he entered his stupid college, he changed into this very stuck up and self-centred bastard.

EVERY TIME we talk, he will boast about himself or about his friends.

Sometimes, he even leeches off other people’s (his friends lah) stuff to boast. For example, he attended this friend’s awesome yacht party, and he boasted about it to the world as if HE was the one who hosted the party. SHIT.

Like that is not enough, every time he chats with people, especially online, he will WITHOUT FAIL say WHATEVER he is saying in a very annoyingly condescending tone. It is as if he believes that everyone is BENEATH him. Except his “awesome” college friends of course. PUI!

I donno why he has to be so arrogant and self-centred, and why can’t he watch his stupid mouth?

For example there was one incident, my cousin recently just got his haircut. It was a crew cut.

COINCIDENTALLY, this stupid bastard also had a crew cut. LONG TIME AGO. So naturally, my cousin had NO IDEA or at least any sort of memory that the bastard had had a crew cut.

But the nerve of the bastard, he went over to my cousin and proudly announced that my cousin had copied him and got the cut. WTF?

He said he was joking of course, but YEAH RIGHT. He is SO the type who thinks that he can easily influence others and that everybody loooooooves to copy his “awesome" style, when in reality we are all talking bad about him behind his back.

Even during hangout sessions, he TRIES EVERYTIME WITHOUT FAIL to monopolise the conversation, making every topic about him. I AM SICK OF IT.

So are my other friends. That’s why nowadays, whenever he is around, we just ignore him. Even when he starts on about what stupid party so-and-so had, we just pretend that we didn’t hear him and continue to leave him out of the circle. Gosh.

And what makes me sad is that he wasn’t like this before. He was still nice and normal and I could get along with him quite well last time. UNTIL HE ENTERED THE STUPID COLLEGE AND SUCCUMBED TO PEER PRESSURE.

Even until now, he doesn’t realise that he is being annoying and everybody hates him. Or maybe he does realise but he is too big-headed to acknowledge it.

EVERYTIME he comments on my statuses, I get annoyed. Because he is CONSTANTLY condescending and acting as if he is so smart and that others can’t live up to his intelligence. PUI!

My SPM results? Better than his by TRIPLE. My co-curricular activities? 100% better than his. And he has the nerve to look down on me (or others)?!

FUCK YOU BASTARD.

As if it is not enough that he keeps trying to put on a facade like he is this awesome stylo guy. HELLO. NOBODY BOTHERS ABOUT WHAT YOU PUT ON OR NOT BECAUSE THEY ALL SUCK.

And he ALWAYS thinks that whatever he does is the right thing and LOVES to advise people on EVERY SINGLE MATTER as if he is very well-versed about said topics. When in reality, whatever he contributes to the conversation is NOT taken into account because NOBODY CARES.

And he is such a hypocrite as well. He tries SO HARD to act as if he is of upper class that when somebody only JOKES about about him being otherwise, he would fire up and try to defend himself with long lengthy paragraphs that nobody in the world is interested to read.

GOSH. SO ANNOYING.

What I would like to say to him is SHUT THE FUCK UP.

Nobody likes you. And admit it, you do feel out of place and ignored nowadays. And it ISN’T other people’s fault, it is YOUR OWN. So can you please go check the mirror before you go barking at others?

Geez. Sometimes I am embarrassed to even be of acquaintance to you.

PHEW.

OKAY. DONE.

Now I feel SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER.

And if you are thinking why I am writing this in my blog and not saying this straight to his face, it is because we will often meet in future occasions so I don’t want to publicly strain my relationship with him. It would make things too awkward for me. Even though ESPECIALLY SINCE I am only reporting the truth.

Besides, he is not worth the effort.

I hope he reads this and realises it is HIM I am bashing about and starts to change his ways if he ever wants to be part of the group again. Because trust me, if he remains the way he is, he is just going to be pushed further and further out of the circle of friends and soon, he won’t be able to return.

Before I sign off,

GUESS WHO’S GOING TO SIMPLE PLAN’S CONCERT THIS SATURDAY!?!?!??!?!?

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE I AM SO EXCITED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gotta go brush up on Simple Plan songs now before the show! BYE BYE!!!

PS : I FORGOT TO MENTION! The bastard also likes to act and appear as if he has had ALOT of sex/blowjobs/WHATEVER sexual stuff before when in reality, EVERYBODY KNOWS he is COMPLETELY A LOSER VIRGIN BECAUSE NOBODY IS EVEN INTERESTED TO BE FUCKED BY HIM!!!! Isn’t that just freaking gross?! Not about being fucked by him (though, now that I mention, that TOO) but that he ACTUALLY thinks that it is COOL to be sexually active (not with your own partner)?! Because as far as I know, he doesn’t even HAVE a girlfriend. NO, he HASN’T EVER have a girlfriend before. GEEZ. Makes me cringe!

Weird.

Today I am very depressed.

Apart from the fact that I just cut my hair and I hate it, there is also the fact that I kenot seem to diet.

I just kenot stop snacking.

I just kenot stop eating sweet stuff.

And that is resulted on the fact that I kenot seem to find any nice clothes for CNY. Because I have become TOO FAT.

Yes, I can fit in clothes. But what is even the point when I look so horribly like a hippopotamus in them?!

And oh yes. I forgot to complain about my financial status.

I AM BROKE.

It is the festive season and I am supposed to be enjoying and buying new clothes but I kenot seem to get in the mood.

That is because when I do find clothes which are halfway decent, I don’t have money to buy them.

How about the fact that there are these weird insect bites which are slowly taking over my body?

I swear I am all scarred right now. And the worst part is I have no idea where all these bites came from.

Actually, that isn’t the worst part. The worst is the fact that they are so bloody itchy (pun; you will get it at the end of the sentence) that more often than not I would scratch the hell outta my skin until it becomes all lacerated and bloody. (There. Pun. Btw, not intended)

And besides all of that, I kenot seem to garner my vocabulary skills to come up with more varied phrases in this blog post.

All I seem to use is “I kenot seem” (4 times now) and “the fact that” (5 times) because I am too bloody (THIS TOO! 3 times now!) BORING to think up any interesting ways to form my sentences.

So you can see why I am so depressed.

I was quite satisfied with the way my hair looked before I went cuckoo and layered it, and that was also pushing because I wasn’t ENTIRELY jazzed by the way my hair usually frizzed and stood blandly on my head before I layered it.

That is because before this, my hair was just abit past the in between process of growing longer after a shocking short haircut. So it was looking pretty decent.

I had a bob cut before this. Then I decided to let it grow out. (So that explains the process of letting my growing longer after a shocking short haircut.)

About 5 months before my hair was long enough to look gorgeous, it was hanging just on my shoulders and they kept curling like the world was theirs and made me look so freaking OLD.

Finally, they grew out to be long enough to look passably hot and only about 2 months of enjoying my returned confidence, STUPID me went and LAYERED IT.

And now it’s back to its disgusting wavy and frizzy state.

FML.

About my body weight?

I have been on holiday since mid December of last year.

So that technically means I have been binging and lazing at home doing nothing for two weeks now. So, the weight started to PILE UP.

And now I look like a freaking elephant.

FML.

MONEY?

None to spend. But so much to buy.

FML.

FML FML FML.

UGLY HAIR, UGLY BODY, UGLY BANK ACCOUNT.

NO WONDER I AM DEPRESSED.

I even at one point got so frustrated that I promised my boyfriend that I would TRY DIETING WITH ALL MY MIGHT to look like Sora Aoi later so that it is me he fantasizes about when he masturbates in future instead of some cute Japanese porn star.

This is quite disturbing.

Is he technically cheating on me?

Well if that counts for cheating then I must have cheated on him SO MANY TIMES with SO MANY HOT MEN.

I shall not mention whom for want of protecting your respect and judgement of me.

But I guess the fact that (6th time!) I practically just gave away the secret that I do fantasize about guys already warped your mind beyond repair.

FML

And also, I am so sorry for the mindfuck when you accidentally imagined me masturbating.

I guess you did not imagine it until I mentioned it in the previous sentence so I am sorry again.

GOODBYE. (before I say more catastrophic things.)

How to make banana and oreo crumble spring rolls! :D

I saw this recipe on AFC once and I decided to try it because it looked so simple!

So when I first made it, I paired it with vanilla ice-cream.

It was really really good!

So I decided to make them for my friends to try and they loved them too! Hehehehe…

So now I’m going to show you how I make these spring rolls and I bet after you see how easy they are to make, you’d be itching to try making them yourself too!

Firstly, you have to get hold of these few items.

Oreo.

Bananas.

Spring roll skins. (you can get them from supermarkets near the frozen section)

A container. (preferably pink! )

Firstly, peel the bananas and cut them roughly into small pieces like this.

Then put your oreos in a bag and crush them up by slightly hitting them with your hammer.

Be sure when your crush the oreo that you still leave some chunks.

This is to ensure that you can still taste them in the spring roll later as opposed to only tasting chocolate powder lol

Pour the oreo crumble into the bowl of chopped up bananas and mix well.

Make sure that the bananas do not become to gushy and smooth because you will still want to be able to taste (and bite) the banana chunks in the spring roll later.

Slowly peel the spring roll skins one by one.

Wrap about 3/4 of a teaspoon of the filling with the spring roll skin as above.

You will end up with a pointy end.

Dap a bit of water onto the pointed end with your finger and then it will stick to the body of the roll as above.

Make as many as you can with the filling you and store them neatly into a container.

Finish everything and you will end up with these!

Deep fry them in medium heat and YOU ARE DONE!

TA-DAHHHH!

(those blackened edges on some of the rolls are the result of a too powerful fire HEHE but mostly they are just oreo-stains)

THEY WERE A HIT!

You can replace the filling with peaches, apples, oranges or any fruit you like if you don’t like banana!

You can also replace the oreo with normal biscuits or peanut butter crackers or anything else!

The choice is yours so be creative and just do it the way as you like it!

I hope you will enjoy this mini dessert; so easy to make yet so satisfying!

Have fun in the kitchen!